There are times in life when you tell yourself, “What the heck are you doing?” It seems that everyone comes across a point where you are confused by existence itself and you have no idea what your path is and what destination you are hoping for reaching.
Of course, this may not apply to everyone, but many have been here, myself included. Just last week, I had to sit down and talk with myself about, well… me.
In that moment of staring at the beige colored wall and trying to make sense of myself, I came to realize that perhaps I did not understand myself as well as I needed or hoped to. I want to acknowledge that a part of understanding yourself is sitting down and talking to yourself. Writing to yourself can also do the trick or maybe playing a simple scenario in your head where you are talking with yourself. But at the end of the day, they are all ways you can talking to yourself.
That week, I was struck with the idea that when people say, “Communication is key” they don’t always mean communicating with other people. The most important and first step should be learning to communicate with yourself.
I decided to sit down and have a conversation about my likes and dislikes and what made me uncomfortable, upset, and any other negative feeling or emotion. That can help you understand where you, as a person, stand. Although you might not be able to figure out everything with a simple list of likes and dislikes, it can help you eliminate the things in life that go against your values as a person.
How can you possibly do anything if you don’t know who you are in life? When people ask you questions about yourself sometimes, it’s hard to answer. I find it hard to talk about myself or what I want in the future because I don’t know who I am as a person.
We have to acknowledge that people constantly evolve, and communicating with yourself and understanding you is a constant task that continues throughout the years. That said, I believe that not understanding yourself yet is also okay. It is best to allow yourself to figure yourself out slowly.
When I began to unwire myself and take a look inside, I was surprised by all the things that I found. Some of these things are perhaps not the best qualities to have as a person, yet I have to accept them. Acceptance is probably the best thing you can do for yourself.
It’s acceptance and experience that result in confidence. Being confident in who you are can allow you to figure out what you want to do.
But we must understand that nothing lasts forever, and all the things I have said previously are entirely a lifetime journey. As you evolve as a person, maybe, there will be a time you sit and stare at a blank wall while talking to yourself, and then you will understand what I mean.
You might be thinking, “Well, how do I start?” maybe start by asking the one thing you might have never asked yourself, “How are you?”. That can be the beginning to the end of understanding yourself.